A Bend Marriage Counselor Offers Tips on How to De-Stress With (and Without) Your Partner

February 27, 2017 by

There’s no way around it: life gets stressful sometimes. Certainly, any American with a TV or a Facebook account has experienced some heightened tension and stress coming from the constant arguments and debates about our current political situation.

Whether you just want to take a break, or need some self-care in order to continue doing your job, a little relaxation is not just enjoyable, but necessary for a more productive and fulfilling life.

Where does your partner play into your need to relax? It depends. Sometimes, our partner is the only person that can calm us down. Sometimes, our partner is the one who makes us want to pull our hair out.

But whether you need new ways to unwind with your spouse or need to get away from them for a bit, we’ve got you covered. Consider the following activities or techniques to refresh your mind and renew your spirit:

Ways to De-Stress with Your Spouse

  • Go see a silly romantic comedy. Head to a theatre, turn off your phones, order some popcorn, and enjoy a laugh or two. We repeat: turn off your phones.

  • Create a “gratitude list.” Things you and your spouse are thankful for. Get the positivity flowing. While you’re creating this list, make sure to include things about each other you are thankful for.
  • Take a walk. Invite your spouse along for a brisk walk outside (again, leaving your phone at home!). You will each get some fresh air and some energy out. Whether you use this time to enjoy the silence, take your mind off of your schedule, or just have a silly chat, a walk gives you face-to-face human connection and a taste of the outside world.
  • Kiss! Giving your partner a smooch (and not just when you want to heat things up in the bedroom) will boost your endorphin levels.

Ways to De-Stress without Your Spouse

  • Take a yoga or meditation class. These forms of relaxation require nothing more than focusing inward. It’s a great way to unplug and ignore everyone and everything for an hour.
  • Are you getting enough sleep? If you’re not getting your full eight hours at night, sneak in an hour or two throughout the day. Let your spouse take care of the kids while you snooze, and you can pay back the favor later.
  • Just breathe. As simple as it sounds, a few minutes of deep breathing works to calm your nervous system. Pay attention to your breath while you’re watching your kids, in a work meeting, or while you’re driving (just make sure you’re still paying attention to the road, too!).
  • Take up a craft. Whether you’re knitting or learning how to paint, focusing on a single task will help to reduce the anxiety that comes from watching TV, checking our phones, reading Facebook – you know what we’re talking about.

Obviously, these are just suggestions. Everyone has certain things they like to do to help them relax. Figure out what works for you as a couple and you alone and make the time to do it.

To make your relationship all that it can be, talk to a Bend marriage counselor today!