A Marriage Coach on When, How, and Why You Should Renew Your Vows

November 22, 2016 by

Your first marriage was such a wonderful ceremony… don’t you wish you could do it all over again? By renewing your vows or having a second ceremony, you can!

Renewing your vows is not just a fun event for you and your spouse – it can also be a deeply intimate ceremony that allows you and your partner to remember and refocus your love for each other. In this blog post, we’ll be reviewing the basics of renewing your vows.

For more ways to deeply strengthen and grow your relationship, contact a Bend marriage coach today.

When to Renew Your Vows. Couples renew their wedding vows at many different times: 2, 5, 10, or 20 years of marriage are common times to do so. Many couples renew their vows at big milestones: when they decide to grow and expand their family, after a significant event in their lives, or after a particularly rough patch. All of these times are appropriate, but no couple should be pressured into renewing their vows when the time is not right.

The ultimate answer? When you and your spouse feel that it is the right time to reaffirm and renew your promise to each other.

How to Renew Your Wedding Vows. Like the question of when, the answer to how to renew your wedding vows lies within the intentions and preferences of you and your spouse. Just like your wedding, you have a few different options for holding a vow renewal ceremony:

  • Vows can be held privately, to create an intimate ceremony for you and your spouse, or publicly, to celebrate your love with your family and friends.
  • Many couples use vow renewal to begin (or have an excuse for!) a second honeymoon.
  • Vows can be focused on reiterating or re-reciting the vows that you made when you first got married, or can be a reflection on the years that have passed, and offer new promises and new ways to devote yourself to your spouse.
  • Your children may be able to participate in this ceremony! Let this renewal strengthen you as a whole family.

There are a lot of ideas out there for renewing your vows. Have fun exploring what you and your spouse would enjoy, and what kind of ceremony would best reflect your marriage and your promises.

Why It’s Important to Renew Your Vows. A lot has changed since you and your spouse first got married, especially if you are renewing your vows a decade or two after your marriage. You may have become parents, changed jobs, or even reached retirement. One thing that hasn’t changed, however, is your commitment to each other. Marriage is a commitment and an emotional bond that will last for the rest of your lives.

But with kids, moving, and careers, we may lose touch or even forget why we made that commitment in the first place. Sure, you still love each other, but what are the promises you made to each other all of those years ago? How are you fulfilling them? How have you neglected them?

Renewing your vows allows you and your spouse to revisit and reaffirm the promises you made when you first got married. Contact a marriage coach today for more ways to make your relationship all that it can be.