A Relationship Coach Describes How to Enter the Dating World After College

October 14, 2016 by

When you’re in college (especially if you attend a larger school), it’s almost too easy to meet new potential matches: going out to parties during the week, attending large social events like sports games or fraternity/sorority socials, new classes every semester. Quite simply, it’s a very social time in your life, and most of the people around you are going to be close to your age and looking for similar things.

Then you graduate and enter the “real world.” For many, the transition into a completely different social situation can be a little awkward. As a relationship coach, I’ve seen this when a number of my clients.

Sure, there are still lots of single people out there to meet, but there are more differences. It’s just not as easy to approach someone at a bar and get a good conversation rolling.

How are you supposed to find new friends, much less find a significant other?

Don’t despair – we’ve got a few tips for you:

  • Let People Know You’re Looking – Sometimes, our friends and family members make assumptions about our priorities and needs. They may think that because you’re out of college, you’re not ready to settle down yet. Be open and honest about what you want. Someone you know might have the perfect friend or acquaintance in mind to set you up with!
  • Consider Online Dating – We know it’s a little weird at first, but it’s becoming more and more common to meet people online. Plus, online profiles allow you to learn a little more about your potential mates than you would when introducing yourself at a bar or an event.
  • Get Out! – If you’re sitting at home every evening, you’re not going to meet anyone new (unless you’re on a dating site, that is). Getting out into the community will allow you to meet people with similar interests, and give you something to talk about.
  • Don’t Commit Immediately – College can sometimes feel like a small world, and dating more than one person might become big news and cause drama. Trust us, it’s not like that in the “real world.” Feel free to go on dates with different people rather than diving in to a commitment with someone you don’t really know yet. Be honest with your potential partners, but be okay with seeing a few different people.
  • Do What’s Best for You - It doesn’t matter what age your parents got married, what your best friend is doing in their dating life, or how many of your Facebook friends have children. If the time is not right for you to find the person to spend of your life with, your love story might not match up with everyone else’s. And that’s okay. The best thing you can be when heading out to meet a potential match is confident and comfortable.

For more tips on how to navigate the (sometimes scary) world of post-grad dating, contact a relationship coach today.