Author Archives: Tim Higdon MS LPC

Marriage Advice: 5 Basic Tips for Dealing with In-Laws

March 29, 2017 by

The dreaded in-laws.

There’s a reason there are so many movies and jokes about the tension between a person and their in-laws. It’s often an awkward relationship, because you’re asked to be part of a family… while still remaining an outsider.

Worse, in some situations, it can go beyond awkwardness ...

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A Bend Marriage Counselor Offers Tips on How to De-Stress With (and Without) Your Partner

February 27, 2017 by

There’s no way around it: life gets stressful sometimes. Certainly, any American with a TV or a Facebook account has experienced some heightened tension and stress coming from the constant arguments and debates about our current political situation.

Whether you just want to take a break, or need some self-care ...

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Bend Relationship Coach: Why Americans Are Waiting Longer to Marry

November 2, 2016 by

Do you have friends, children, or relatives in their late 20s and early 30s who are still single? You keep waiting for that save-the-date or engagement announcement and… it’s just not coming? Or maybe you’re the one who’s content to hold off on the big day?

Whatever camp you fall ...

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Bend Relationship Coach: Avoid Important Conversations Online

October 25, 2016 by

Tell us if you’ve ever been in this situation:

Tension is rising between you and your partner. Maybe something is bugging you. Maybe they’re acting strange. Or maybe you left each other on an awkward note.

You don’t know how to address the issue. But you want to get your ...

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Bend Marriage Counseling Asks: What Are Singles Looking For?

May 3, 2016 by

Bend Marriage Counseling Asks: What Are Singles Looking For?

If you want to be in a relationship and find a partner, you have to put yourself out there and date. Dating allows you the opportunity to meet different people and to see how compatible you might be. But if you ...

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Bend Marriage Counselor: Cohabitation and Why It Might Not Work

April 20, 2016 by

These days, many couples are choosing to cohabitate – or live together – without getting married. Decades ago, cohabitation without marriage was looked down upon, but it’s becoming more and more common and acceptable.

Why are people choosing to cohabitate before getting married?

There are a number of reasons. Many ...

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Bend Marriage Counseling: The Changing Attitudes on Marriage

April 14, 2016 by

Bend Marriage Counseling: The Changing Attitudes on Marriage

Marriage is constantly evolving. And because of this evolution, the ideas, thoughts, and attitudes on marriage might look a lot different than they looked 50, 20, or even just 10 years ago.

Here in the United States, the marriage rate continues to ...

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Bend Marriage Counselor: Research on Happy Marriage

April 6, 2016 by

Bend Marriage Counselor: Research on the Secrets to a Happy Marriage

Everyone wants a happy marriage, and everyone wants to know the secret to a happy marriage. But what if you knew that there wasn’t a secret? What if you knew that you could have a happy marriage based on ...

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Secure Functioning: The Foundation of a Fulfilling Relationship

October 22, 2015 by

This Bend Marriage counselor just returned from the exciting and inspiring Imago International Conference in St. Petersburg, Florida. Stan Tatkin PsyD, author of Wired for Love, was the first keynote speaker. His presentation focused on our deep longing for a securely functioning relationship. Hallmarks of secure functioning are a two-person ...

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Bend Marriage Counselor Asks: How Does Your Childhood Affect Your Adult Relationships? Part 3

August 16, 2015 by

In childhood we all learn how to protect ourselves when we were scared, hurt or threatened. These adaptive behaviors are our “defenses”. When neglected, we may have yelled, cried or screamed. When our mother or father was angry we may have shut down, froze or withdrawn. We also learned a ...

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