Bend Marriage Counseling Asks: What Are Singles Looking For?

May 3, 2016 by

Bend Marriage Counseling Asks: What Are Singles Looking For?

If you want to be in a relationship and find a partner, you have to put yourself out there and date. Dating allows you the opportunity to meet different people and to see how compatible you might be. But if you don’t have any idea what you’re actually looking for in a partner, dating can feel pointless.

What do you want in a partner? Have you really thought about it?

Whether you’ve thought about it casually, in depth, or not at all, it might help to know what other singles like you are looking for in both a partner and a relationship. So read on if you need some ideas or are just curious to know what singles might be thinking.

Top Must-Haves in a Relationship

USA Today posted the results from a Match.com poll concerning what men and women must have in a relationship. Some of the factors are the same for everyone, whereas others are unique to just men or just women.

What Women Want

  • 84% want someone to treat them with respect
  • 77% want someone they can trust and confide in
  • 58% want someone with a sense of humor who makes them laugh
  • 47% want someone who shares the same values
  • 46% want someone who can communicate their wants, needs, and desires

What Men Want

  • 63% want someone they can trust and confide in
  • 57% want someone to treat them with respect
  • 40% want someone who is physically attractive
  • 37% want someone with a sense of humor and makes them laugh
  • 36% want someone comfortable with their own sexuality

From this poll we can see that both men and women place a strong emphasis on respect and trust in a relationship. Humor is also important to both, but women value a partner who can make them laugh more than men do.

It’s interesting, though, that men look for attractiveness and sexuality while that’s not necessarily a focus for a woman. Instead, women look for someone who has similar values that they can openly communicate with.

What about what what’s least important?

Both men and women don’t really care if a potential date or partner is eager to marry. They also don’t really care about a partner having the same level of education, similar ethnic backgrounds, a desire for kids, or even if someone eats similar foods. So vegetarians and meat-eaters might be able to find happiness together after all!

What this tells us is that it’s good to have a general idea of what you’re looking for in a relationship. But it’s also important to keep an open mind if you meet someone who has great potential but doesn’t fulfill every item on your relationship checklist. Just make sure that no matter who you date, you’re happy and having fun.

If you are single and want to be in a relationship but don’t seem to have any luck dating, see how Bend marriage counseling might be able to help.