Bend Marriage Counseling: Handle Holiday Stress Together

December 23, 2014 by

As many of us are well aware, the holiday season means more than just festive decorations, sing-alongs, and month-long loops of A Christmas Carol and Miracle on 34th Street on TV. It also means the kids are out of school for a week, the in-laws are visiting, you’re traveling, work is more hectic than ever, and you’re spending all your money and then some. For couples, the holiday season can be downright stressful.

Luckily, you don’t have to handle any of these things alone. One of the best parts of being in a relationship is that you have a built-in partner and support system. You have someone there to help you juggle the million tasks you’re faced with and you have someone to help you keep calm when you feel like your head might explode.

Here are some tips for surviving holiday stress as a team:

  1. Be understanding. If your partner is stressed, don’t belittle their worries. Listen to them, hear everything that they have to say, and then offer to help however you can.
  2. Show affection. In times of stress, a little can go a long way. Leave your partner a quick, loving note in the morning before you go to work, or have a hot cup of tea ready for them when they come home at the end of the day.
  3. Offer to share the load. Don’t let your partner try to tackle everything alone—offer a helping hand whenever you can, and restate your offer to help repeatedly. Divide tasks, make lists, and set manageable goals.
  4. Help each other manage expectations. Remember that the holidays are supposed to be more than three months of hair-pulling stress and worry. Help each other remember the important things, focus on the positives, and understand that complete perfection isn’t necessary.

Even though the holiday season can be stressful, if you work together with patience, understanding, and affectionate reminders here and there, you and your partner will be able to get through it together.

Don’t hesitate to contact Bend marriage counseling if things really start to spin out of control, and if all else fails, remember—the holidays will be over soon!