Bend Relationship Counselor: New Year’s Resolutions for Couples

December 29, 2014 by

You’ve probably made resolutions to exercise more or watch less TV, but how often do you make resolutions regarding your relationship? New Year’s Eve gives couples the opportunity to toast past successes, put old arguments and former grievances behind them, and welcome in a fresh new year. Use this special time to improve your relationship by collaborating with your partner on a list of promises to make to each other for 2015. To help you get started, here are some essentials:

Kiss with intention. For many couples, meaningful kisses and gestures of affection begin to disappear over time. Resolve to kiss with intention at least once a day—it’ll only take a few moments, but it can help reawaken dormant feelings of fondness and intimacy.

Schedule regular date nights. Going on date nights regularly can do wonders for a relationship, regardless of how young or old it is. With busy schedules, kids, and technology constantly distracting us, it can be easy to forget to make time for each other. Schedule a time—preferably every week—to go out to dinner, go on a picnic, or even just take a walk together. On date nights, try to turn off your phones, log off Facebook, and leave the kids with a sitter so there’s nothing to distract you from each other’s company.

Cook more. The ease and convenience of ordering takeout can keep couples from cooking together as often as they should. When you and your spouse toss the takeout and take the time to cook wholesome meals, you are able to spend quality and intimate time together. Bonus—you’ll probably end up eating healthier, too.

Take up a new hobby. Learning a new skill together can be a wonderful bonding experience for you and your partner. Consider enrolling in a class where you can pick up a new hobby that interests both of you, such as rock-climbing, painting, or salsa dancing. The challenge and thrill of learning something new can make you feel closer.

Travel somewhere. Couples who have been together a long time often forget cherished dreams, such as travelling the world. Join heads to plan a trip to somewhere you’ve always dreamed of going, and decide on ways you can save money and steps to take to make your dream a reality.

Give up old bad habits. Being in a relationship means you have a built-in support system. With your partner by your side, it can be easier to get rid of old habits than it would be if you were alone. Decide on an unhealthy habit you’d both like to kick together—such as drinking too much or watching a lot of TV—and replace it with a healthy activity like hiking or volunteering.

Want more relationship resolutions? Contact a Bend relationship counselor—we’ve got plenty of suggestions.