Bend Marriage Coach: Repairing a Relationship Rupture

October 11, 2017 by

Think back to the last argument you had with your partner. Did you feel intense emotional pain afterward? That’s likely due to the fact you experienced a rupture in connection during and after the argument.

When you feel disconnected from your partner, feelings like anxiety and fear of abandonment are ...

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Why You Don’t Have to Have That Talk Just Yet

Imagine this: you’re sitting on the couch, watching television with your partner. Things have been tense recently – maybe you’ve even been actively fighting. But you’re still not sure what to do about it, and communicating your feelings seems impossible.

So naturally your partner turns off the television and says, ...

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Relationship Help: 5 Words and Phrases to Avoid Using

Sticks and stones may break your bones, but let’s be honest: words hurt, too.

Even after years of a marriage where you and your partner are completely open and honest with each other, it’s still wise to set some boundaries and refrain from using words and phrases that may hurt ...

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How Practicing Mindfulness Can Benefit Your Relationship

Jobs, kids, politics, money – all these things can stir up nerves. And when you bring those stressors into your relationship, it can lead to a fight.

So what can you do to de-stress?

One effective way to combat stress is the practice of cultivating “mindfulness.” Mindfulness can help you ...

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Relationship Advice: How Practicing Mindfulness Can Benefit Your Relationship

Jobs, kids, politics, money – all these things can stir up nerves. And when you bring those stressors into your relationship, it can lead to a fight.

So what can you do to de-stress?

One effective way to combat stress is the practice of cultivating “mindfulness.” Mindfulness can help you ...

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A Relationship Therapist Answers: Do Ultimatums Work?

So you’ve reached your boiling point. It seems like no matter how you try to resolve a situation, nothing works, and your partner is still upsetting you.

Then it hits you. What needs to be done. You’re going to have to give them an ultimatum: shape up – or else.

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Bend Marriage Counselor: 5 Ways to Give Love and Affection at a Distance

If you live far away from your partner, you already know there are many things about a long-distance relationship that are difficult.

When you see couples that live together – or live close by and get to see each other all the time – it’s normal to feel jealous or ...

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Seek Balance in Addressing Each Partner’s Needs

As a Bend relationship coach, I frequently talk about the importance of communication in maintaining a happy, loving relationship. Paying attention to how you say things can make a big difference in marital satisfaction.

That’s why a recent study from the University of California–Riverside, is so interesting. Researchers looked at ...

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Marriage Advice: 5 Basic Tips for Dealing with In-Laws

March 29, 2017 by

The dreaded in-laws.

There’s a reason there are so many movies and jokes about the tension between a person and their in-laws. It’s often an awkward relationship, because you’re asked to be part of a family… while still remaining an outsider.

Worse, in some situations, it can go beyond awkwardness ...

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Relationship Coach: Are You Missing Your Partner’s Emotional Cues?

Did you know that only 7% of communication is verbal?

93% of communication is nonverbal, including body language and tone of voice. Even though your partner is not verbally saying something to you, they may be thinking or feeling something that they are communicating through nonverbal means.

Researchers at Washington ...

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