Divorce Counseling

Secure Functioning: The Foundation of a Fulfilling Relationship

October 22, 2015 by

This Bend Marriage counselor just returned from the exciting and inspiring Imago International Conference in St. Petersburg, Florida. Stan Tatkin PsyD, author of Wired for Love, was the first keynote speaker. His presentation focused on our deep longing for a securely functioning relationship. Hallmarks of secure functioning are a two-person ...

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How To Resolve Conflict and Keep Your Love Alive, Part 1

March 18, 2015 by

Here at Bend Oregon marriage counseling we assist couples on a daily basis to resolve conflict. The #1 reason that couples seek help is because they have been fighting. A corollary of that is couples stop talking to each other for fear of conflict and become distant, thus losing their ...

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Bend Relationship Counselor: ATTUNEment in Relationships Part 6—Empathy

August 13, 2014 by

“Empathy” is a word that I used a lot as a Bend marriage counselor because it’s one of the most essential components of a healthy marriage. It’s also the sixth part of ATTUNE, an acronym that psychologist Dr. John Gotmman uses to describe building trust in a relationship.

If you’ve ...

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Bend Marriage Counselor: ATTUNEment in Relationships

May 24, 2014 by

Bend Marriage Counselor: ATTUNEment in Relationships - Awareness

Trust is the foundation of a healthy long-term relationship, but many couples struggle to understand how to successfully build trust. There’s more to it than just being honest with one another (although that’s certainly an important part of it). Psychology professor and ...

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Bend Marriage Counseling Divorce Predictors: Pt 4 – Defensiveness

May 1, 2014 by

With this blog, we’re coming close to the end of our series on common divorce predictors. So far we’ve covered contempt, criticism, and stonewalling. There’s only one left, and unlike the others, it’s not a part of Dr. John Gottman’s “four horsemen of the apocalypse.” But before we get to ...

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Bend Marriage Counseling Divorce Predictors: Part 1– Contempt

March 13, 2014 by

Contempt is the First Divorce Predictor According to Bend Marriage Counselor

Every couple involved in a long term relationship is bound to go through periods where they fight more and feel less connected to each other. You can’t be involved with someone for years or even decades without some ups ...

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Bend Marriage Counselor says incompatability can lead to real love

July 23, 2013 by

One of the reasons this Bend Marriage Counselor has appreciated Harville Henrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt is they have literally “mined “ the unconscious purpose of loving relationship. So often the cultural myths of finding, growing and sustaining real love are not what most of us experience in our personal ...

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Bend Oregon Marriage Counselor helps marriages during life challenges

February 22, 2013 by

This Bend Marriage Counselor knows the joy and excitement your wedding day creates. It brings the hopes dreams and anticipation of what's to come. Many of us recite the traditional vows— for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health and for better or worse. But, we really don't expect ...

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Divorce Can Wreak Havoc on Your Health, Says Oregon Relationship Counselor

January 21, 2013 by

When couples come in to my Oregon relationship counselor practice for the first time and they’re already talking to me about the possibility of divorce, my first reaction is to try to get them to slow down. Divorce is a huge, life-changing step that shouldn’t be taken lightly—even for people ...

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Couples Therapy: The Importance of Working with a Well-Trained Marriage Counselor

June 13, 2011 by

Couples therapy can actually hurt your relationship if you’re not working with a well-trained marriage counselor. Many couples only overcome their relationship issues due to the help of counseling, but 25% of couples are actually worse off. Some marriage counselors just aren’t equipped to work with couples who are in ...

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