Relationship Advice

Why You Don’t Have to Have That Talk Just Yet

Imagine this: you’re sitting on the couch, watching television with your partner. Things have been tense recently – maybe you’ve even been actively fighting. But you’re still not sure what to do about it, and communicating your feelings seems impossible.

So naturally your partner turns off the television and says, ...

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Relationship Help: 5 Words and Phrases to Avoid Using

Sticks and stones may break your bones, but let’s be honest: words hurt, too.

Even after years of a marriage where you and your partner are completely open and honest with each other, it’s still wise to set some boundaries and refrain from using words and phrases that may hurt ...

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How Practicing Mindfulness Can Benefit Your Relationship

Jobs, kids, politics, money – all these things can stir up nerves. And when you bring those stressors into your relationship, it can lead to a fight.

So what can you do to de-stress?

One effective way to combat stress is the practice of cultivating “mindfulness.” Mindfulness can help you ...

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Relationship Advice: How Practicing Mindfulness Can Benefit Your Relationship

Jobs, kids, politics, money – all these things can stir up nerves. And when you bring those stressors into your relationship, it can lead to a fight.

So what can you do to de-stress?

One effective way to combat stress is the practice of cultivating “mindfulness.” Mindfulness can help you ...

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A Relationship Therapist Answers: Do Ultimatums Work?

So you’ve reached your boiling point. It seems like no matter how you try to resolve a situation, nothing works, and your partner is still upsetting you.

Then it hits you. What needs to be done. You’re going to have to give them an ultimatum: shape up – or else.

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Seek Balance in Addressing Each Partner’s Needs

As a Bend relationship coach, I frequently talk about the importance of communication in maintaining a happy, loving relationship. Paying attention to how you say things can make a big difference in marital satisfaction.

That’s why a recent study from the University of California–Riverside, is so interesting. Researchers looked at ...

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Marriage Advice: 5 Basic Tips for Dealing with In-Laws

March 29, 2017 by

The dreaded in-laws.

There’s a reason there are so many movies and jokes about the tension between a person and their in-laws. It’s often an awkward relationship, because you’re asked to be part of a family… while still remaining an outsider.

Worse, in some situations, it can go beyond awkwardness ...

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A Bend Relationship Counselor Explores 3 Common Conflicts between Parents

Marriage is hard enough – but adding kids into the mix?

Chances are, you were raised differently than your co-parent. This is something that will have a profound impact on the way that you want to raise your child. The way that we talk to, discipline, and teach our children ...

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Friending an Ex? Think Twice, Says a Bend Relationship Counselor

Are we too late in saying that everyone is on Facebook now? We mean everyone. Your kids, your neighbors, your co-workers, and your high school teachers can all “friend” you. Most of these connections are fun and nostalgic… until someone from your romantic past comes along.

Say your ex adds ...

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An Oregon Relationship Coach Suggests 5 Resources for Couples in a Rut

December 21, 2016 by

It’s not easy to admit that your marriage is in a rut. We often face a lot of pressure to put on a happy face and pretend that our relationship is always amazing, but the truth is that all couples find themselves stuck at one point or another.

Feeling stuck ...

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