Imago Therapy: A New Approach to Helping Couples

Bend Marriage Counseling Serves Couples Who Want Better Relationships

Is Marriage Counseling the Best Fit for Your Relationship?

Tim Higdon and Norene Gonsiewski offer a full range of services for your relationship goals. It is our mission to help you have the relationship of your dreams, and we can help you achieve your goals in several ways. Because we offer both coaching and counseling for relationships, consider which one might be best for you.

Counseling is your best option if:

  • Your commitment is in crisis. You may have become discouraged and think that there are no solutions for your issues. Marriage counseling is your best option if you are leaning out of the commitment. Both of us have over 35 years of experience helping couples just like you, to find their way back to safety, connection and passion.
  • You have trauma in your childhood that is sometimes triggered by your current relationship. Counseling explores the contributions to your problems from your past, as well as your negative thinking and reactive behavior. Our past often influences our present and our future. We all have a present story, which includes our experiences and what we make them mean.
  • You have reactive emotions that make it difficult for you to follow through on appropriate choices. Whether you are an emotional hailstorm that erupts with words and feelings, or an emotional turtle that pulls in your shell and hopes the storm will pass, we can help. We teach tools you can use to calm down the emotional arousal and have a safe conversation.

Not sure yet whether relationship coaching or counseling is best for you?
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If counseling is the best fit for you, we have very good news…

We Offer the Best Marriage Counseling Money Can Buy

This is no exaggeration! Tim Higdon and Norene Gonsiewski are trained in a style of couples counseling that has all the important ingredients for your success. In the past decade several studies on marriage counseling showed that in order to be effective, couples counseling must have three key components:

  • Structure
  • Tools
  • Education

Without all three, couples counseling is as effective as no counseling at all! Tim and Norene are trained and certified in a type of couples counseling that surpasses in all three areas.


Imago Therapy: A New Approach to Helping Couples

Why do you need Imago Relationship Therapy? If you are struggling with relationship issues, consider the possibility that your relationship is simply in need of the right tools. Many couples that come to see us are in pain and think the only way out is to leave. This does not need to be the case.

Pain can also be the greatest motivation toward real change. Relationship issues are usually deeply rooted in past experiences and you may find that all of your relationships have ended up with the same issues. Some partners who have been married more than once discover that they keep choosing the same type of partner.

As relationship therapists and educators at Bend Marriage Counseling, our approach gives you the information, skills and support you will need to understand and learn how to create and maintain genuine, lasting and intimate relationships.


What is Imago Relationship Therapy?

Throughout our years of professional experience, nothing has inspired us like the work of Dr. Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Imago Relationship Therapy. His landmark book, Getting the Love you Want, a Guide for Couples, will give you a complete understanding of committed partnership along with the tools and a system to create love that can last a lifetime.

There is a marked difference between Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) and most traditional approaches to couples counseling. With traditional relationship help approaches, the therapist works to help partners negotiate agreements. This usually only works until one partner perceives the other as breaking the agreement.

With Imago Relationship Therapy and Bend Marriage Counseling, you will learn about the patterns in your relationship. You and your partner have developed certain patterns in the way you interact, mostly unconsciously. By uncovering these cycles, you can break negative communicative habits and begin a new relationship style.

Does each partner need to go to individual counseling, prior to working on the relationship? No, and this is a common misunderstanding. Imago Relationship Therapy will show you that working together with your partner on your relationship is the best way to approach relationship help. Who else will trigger areas within you for growth and healing? That said, an individual could still benefit from counseling to focus on how to improve the relationship when their partner will not go to counseling.


What Oregon Marriage Counseling Services are Available?

Private Counseling and Individual Counseling

At Bend, Marriage Counseling, private sessions are available for just about any relationship problem. With a free initial consultation, you can decide a course of action that is best for you.

  • 50-minute sessions are available for individuals
  • 80-minute sessions are reserved for couples

Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling usually begins with both partners. But if your partner won’t come you can still begin counseling. You can learn about yourself and how to improve your situation. Sometimes there are compelling reasons to begin marriage counseling with your partner – such as the disclosure of an affair or violence – that make beginning counseling difficult. A marital counselor will help you become safe with each other. You can stop the criticism, blame, shame and negativity. Or, we can start with just you.

Marriage Intensives

Marriage intensives will put you back on the road to recovery and renewed commitment. Half day (3 to 4 hours) and full day (6 hour) marriage intensives allow a couple the time and space necessary to move past a relationship impasse and/or traumatic event (i.e. infidelity, loss of loved one, etc.) as quickly as possible.

Marriage intensives are a great way for couples traveling from a distance to not only have a more consistent experience, but they can enjoy beautiful Bend, Oregon.

Individual Counseling

Your first relationship is with yourself. Gaining information and insight about your own personal challenges is the first step toward moving past self-defeating behaviors. Bend Marriage Counseling offers the tools and support that will enable you to achieve the results you want.

Relationship and personal growth issues appropriate for individual counseling are: affairs, separation and divorce, addictions, anxiety and depression, grief and loss, life transitions, personal growth, conscious dating and other relationship issues.

The many options allow you to choose the services you need at the present time. While you might start as an individual, you can also work with your partner to increase the happiness and stability in your home.

You can learn more about us and about Oregon marriage counseling on this site. Or contact us for more information or to make an appointment.

With our free gift, you can start rebuilding your relationship today.