Oregon Relationship Coach: What If My Friends Don’t Like My New Partner?

We all know that it’s hard to coordinate events or parties when two people attending do not get along. So when your friends don’t like your boyfriend or girlfriend, it can be hard to bring everyone together for fun outings or celebrations. Even the simplest night out can cause a lot of drama.

After a while, it can seem like it’s not worth it to invite everyone out – or even go out at all. But it is worth it, because both are necessary parts of your life. So it becomes your job to try to bring your partner and your friends together and see if you can mend their relationship.

Every situation is different, so the best way to plan out your strategy is to talk things over with a knowledgeable relationship coach. You can reach out to our offices any time.

How to Build a Positive Relationship between Your Partner and Your Friends

The best way to start building a positive relationship between your friends and your partner is to figure out what is causing the tension. For example, your friends may not look favorably on your partner because they think that he or she does not deserve you and does not treat you right. They think you can do better, and resent the pain that your partner has caused you in the past. This is a common reason why friends are leery of befriending someone’s significant other.

In this case, it’s important to evaluate how you speak to your friends about your significant other. Often, we use our friends to vent about things that are upsetting us. But when all we do is vent to our friends about our partner, our friends’ view of our partner can become skewed.

But what if there doesn’t seem to be a specific problem? Maybe your friends just don’t get along with your partner – or vice versa.

If you are hoping to mend the relationship, be open with all parties about your wishes for them to put their differences aside and enjoy their time together. The one thing that your partner and your friends have in common is that they both love and care about you. They will make an effort to get along if they know it is very important to you.

At the end of the day, it is important to remember that like your parents, coworkers, friends, and so on, your partner is a unique person in your life. Friends and significant others play separate roles in our lives, and sometimes their responsibilities and expectations should be kept separate as well.

This does not mean you have to choose between your friends and your partner. It just means that, sometimes, it can be healthier for everyone to play out these relationships separately.

If your partner’s relationship with your friends is severely affecting your relationship, you may want to talk to a relationship coach for more ways to build positive relationships with all of the people you love.