Ways to Prevent Affairs from Bend, Oregon Marriage Counseling

October 23, 2014 by

Ways to Prevent Affairs from Bend, Oregon Marriage Counseling

According to some studies, anywhere between 50-70 percent of all long term relationships experience an infidelity. That’s an astounding number, but you don’t have to just reconcile yourself to the fact that you or your spouse is probably going to cheat at some point.

Here are four things that you can do to keep your relationship strong and decrease the chance that you or your partner will have an affair.

Talk, talk, talk. The longer we’re with someone, the less we really talk to them. Sometimes this is because we get frustrated about something and don’t want to have to bring it up for the hundredth time. Sometimes it’s because we grow so accustomed to being around each other that we assume our spouse typically knows what we’re thinking – and vice versa. But one of the best ways to ensure a healthy relationship is to keep talking about things – especially the things that bother you. This doesn’t mean your “communication” should be a constant litany of what your partner does wrong, though. You have to learn effective communication skills and the “right” way to confront each other.

Set frequent sex dates. While the idea of setting actual dates may seem silly to some, it’s way too easy to let sex slide if you don’t schedule it in advance, and setting aside that time only gets harder the longer you’re together and the more complicated your lives become. Making sure you have sex on a fairly regular basis is important, because it provides a sense of connection and closeness that’s vital to a relationship.

Show that you’re interested. With work, kids, and the million other things that vie for our daily attention, it’s all too easy to get tunnel vision and lose sight of our spouse. Unfortunately, one of the main reasons that people say they end up cheating is because they don’t feel like their spouse appreciates them. Preventing this feeling can be as simple as setting aside 5-10 minutes every day to talk about what you did, write little love notes, hug and kiss, or offer each other massages.

Embracing sexual growth. Human beings crave sexual variety. It’s just something that’s built into our DNA. So if you want to continue to have a satisfying sex life with your significant other, both of you have to be willing to try new things and “grow” sexually. Refusing to do this can actually drive a partner away if they’re not being sexually satisfied by the “status quo.”

If you’re worried about cheating in your relationship or looking for more tips to strengthen your relationship bond, don’t hesitate to give us a call at Bend, Oregon marriage counseling.