Is the pandemic causing relationship challenges?

We are available now for online counseling
Like you, we are practicing physical distancing until we are released from the Corona virus health crisis. However, we have found online counseling to be easy and effective. Try it for your free 30-minute Introductory session.
Our new website, Rock Solid Relationship Solutions is just a click away. There you will find a wealth of relationship advice and help during these difficult times

Hi, we are Tim Higdon LPC and Norene Gonsiewski LCSW, founders of Rock Solid Relationship Solutions and authors of Rock Solid Relationship: Seven Keys to Restore Your Connection and Make Your Love Last.

We think that you are incredibly fortunate to have a partner, because intimacy is something all of us long for. But sometimes we face challenges that are more than just bumps in the road on our relationship journey. These are more like road blocks that can cause relationships to stall, or even come to a screeching halt.

Reach Your Full Potential as Life Partners with Our
Relationship Counseling Services and Coaching Program

Perhaps, like everyone else, your relationship isn’t perfect. But one definition of a “perfect marriage” is two imperfect people refusing to give up on one another. So your partner may sometimes seem impossible or annoying – but truthfully we are all impossible and annoying at times, and we are all capable of improvement. Media attention and statistics show that couples are marrying less and that marriage no longer has the appeal it once did. Even so, we think something exciting is happening that is not fully understood.

We believe marriage and lifelong relationships are undergoing a wonderful transformation. We know that you want desperately to succeed at love. You know if you find the right resources, you can make your marriage feel like a million bucks.

The meaning and purpose of marriage and lifelong commitment is changing. People want lifelong relationships that are both secure and exciting. Couples have the opportunity to make their relationship their greatest adventure.

Never before have we had access to so much information about how to succeed at love – and WE know how to help you use that information to live the relationship of your dreams.

What is the Best Fit for My Relationship...Coaching or Counseling?

Here is a brief description of the different sets of needs that each of our programs address. There is also much more information on both services on our Find Solutions tab, above.

Before we start our work together we will also ask you some questions that will help you to know which modality is best for you. At Bend Marriage Counseling and Coaching, we offer both services, and we do them well. So don’t worry we will help you decide which is your best option.

First off, the similarities are: confidentiality, working with clients who want to change, having regularly scheduled sessions, helping clients accomplish goals, providing a safe and non-judgmental space to reflect and asking thought-provoking questions to invite the client to consider different perspectives.

If your commitment is currently in crisis and you are not able to take divorce off the table for six months and work to rebuild your connection, then counseling is the right choice for you.

  • Counseling is problem focused. Coaching is solution and action focused.
  • Counseling explores the contributions from your past, as well as your negative thinking and reactive behavior. Coaching looks forward and focuses on your goals, the obstacles in your path and the skills you need to reach your goals.
  • Counseling helps when your emotions make it difficult for you to follow through on appropriate choices. Coaching makes the assumption that you are psychologically healthy but need skills to do better.
  • Counseling is therefore the best choice for psychological struggles. If you know what to do, but you just can’t bring yourself to do it, counseling is your best choice.
  • Coaching gives both partners the responsibility to improve the relationship. You will have something to do every week that will help you to get closer to your goals. If you have the courage to make changes, but you don’t know how, coaching is your best choice.[/su_box]

How Does a Relationship Coach Help?

Most couples do not need psychotherapy, so much as they need skills and encouragement. That’s where we come in. You may be facing some kind of struggle in your relationship that you are not sure how to solve. Perhaps you would like to take your relationship to the next level. No matter what you’re dealing with in your romantic partnership, relationship challenges are normal and can be fixed. As professional relationship coaches, we provide the support to get you the results you are looking for. Through our coaching programs, you will rub off some of those sharp edges that you continue to bump into. You will learn not to settle for boring and mundane. Instead you will design a life of passion and connection. We deeply believe that “Happily ever after” can be achieved, one day at a time.

Focus on a Positive, Happy Future

Our relationship coaching will assist you to the results you want quickly. And you can do this in the comfort of your own home or anywhere else on the planet via phone or Skype. So the really big question is: “Are You Ready”?

This is a big decision and many couples believe it’s beyond reach. Join our family of thriving, successful couples who have found it is definitely within reach. Your relationship can be better than you imagined!

The Next Steps toward a Rock Solid Relationship

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