Bend Oregon Marriage Counseling https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com Relationship Education, Coaching and Counseling Thu, 26 Oct 2017 00:47:47 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Bend Marriage Coach: Repairing a Relationship Rupture https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/bend-marriage-coach-repairing-a-relationship-rupture Thu, 12 Oct 2017 05:04:28 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1765 Think back to the last argument you had with your partner. Did you feel intense emotional pain afterward? That’s likely due to the fact you experienced a rupture in connection during and after the argument. When you feel disconnected from your partner, feelings like anxiety and fear of abandonment are often activated. These feelings can […]

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Why You Don’t Have to Have That Talk Just Yet https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/why-you-dont-have-to-have-that-talk-just-yet Wed, 14 Jun 2017 02:22:51 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1721 Imagine this: you’re sitting on the couch, watching television with your partner. Things have been tense recently – maybe you’ve even been actively fighting. But you’re still not sure what to do about it, and communicating your feelings seems impossible. So naturally your partner turns off the television and says, “We need to talk about […]

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Relationship Help: 5 Words and Phrases to Avoid Using https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/relationship-help-5-words-and-phrases-to-avoid-using Wed, 24 May 2017 18:06:40 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1710 Sticks and stones may break your bones, but let’s be honest: words hurt, too. Even after years of a marriage where you and your partner are completely open and honest with each other, it’s still wise to set some boundaries and refrain from using words and phrases that may hurt your relationship. Below, we’re going […]

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How Practicing Mindfulness Can Benefit Your Relationship https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/how-practicing-mindfulness-can-benefit-your-relationship Tue, 09 May 2017 17:41:53 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1702 Jobs, kids, politics, money – all these things can stir up nerves. And when you bring those stressors into your relationship, it can lead to a fight. So what can you do to de-stress? One effective way to combat stress is the practice of cultivating “mindfulness.” Mindfulness can help you manage your emotions and act […]

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Relationship Advice: How Practicing Mindfulness Can Benefit Your Relationship https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/relationship-advice-how-practicing-mindfulness-can-benefit-your-relationship Fri, 28 Apr 2017 21:53:15 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1694 Jobs, kids, politics, money – all these things can stir up nerves. And when you bring those stressors into your relationship, it can lead to a fight. So what can you do to de-stress? One effective way to combat stress is the practice of cultivating “mindfulness.” Mindfulness can help you manage your emotions and act […]

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A Relationship Therapist Answers: Do Ultimatums Work? https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/a-relationship-therapist-answers-do-ultimatums-work Thu, 20 Apr 2017 16:07:15 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1688 So you’ve reached your boiling point. It seems like no matter how you try to resolve a situation, nothing works, and your partner is still upsetting you. Then it hits you. What needs to be done. You’re going to have to give them an ultimatum: shape up – or else. Time out. Think this through […]

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Bend Marriage Counselor: 5 Ways to Give Love and Affection at a Distance https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/bend-marriage-counselor-5-ways-to-give-love-and-affection-at-a-distance Wed, 12 Apr 2017 15:29:50 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1681 If you live far away from your partner, you already know there are many things about a long-distance relationship that are difficult. When you see couples that live together – or live close by and get to see each other all the time – it’s normal to feel jealous or frustrated with your situation. Especially […]

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Seek Balance in Addressing Each Partner’s Needs https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/seek-balance-in-addressing-each-partners-needs Thu, 06 Apr 2017 17:37:20 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1678 As a Bend relationship coach, I frequently talk about the importance of communication in maintaining a happy, loving relationship. Paying attention to how you say things can make a big difference in marital satisfaction. That’s why a recent study from the University of California–Riverside, is so interesting. Researchers looked at how patients with breast cancer […]

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Marriage Advice: 5 Basic Tips for Dealing with In-Laws https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/marriage-advice-5-basic-tips-for-dealing-with-in-laws Thu, 30 Mar 2017 03:20:51 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1671 The dreaded in-laws. There’s a reason there are so many movies and jokes about the tension between a person and their in-laws. It’s often an awkward relationship, because you’re asked to be part of a family… while still remaining an outsider. Worse, in some situations, it can go beyond awkwardness and actually negatively impact you […]

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Relationship Coach: Are You Missing Your Partner’s Emotional Cues? https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/relationship-coach-are-you-missing-your-partners-emotional-cues Wed, 22 Mar 2017 22:27:00 +0000 https://www.bendoregonmarriagecounseling.com/?p=1667 Did you know that only 7% of communication is verbal? 93% of communication is nonverbal, including body language and tone of voice. Even though your partner is not verbally saying something to you, they may be thinking or feeling something that they are communicating through nonverbal means. Researchers at Washington University in St. Louis looked […]

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